Meeting new people comes with the job description of being an expat, and I love how I am exposed to people of so many walks of life. I have an awesome diverse group of friends I am grateful for. Building a network takes time and care, it’s important to choose the right friends. Since I was a child I was always blessed with great family and friends so I guess that’s reflected in the large network of friendships we have forged which spreads all the way from Brazil to Vietnam. For this, I would like to say thank you.
The majority of the people who ask this question would not lay claim to racism, nor do they mean to be annoying.. Where are you from? London. No but where are you from originally? WHOA hold up, we just met, is it really relevant where my ancestors are from? This isn’t one tribe leader to another in ancient times it’s just two people having a conversation that are from different places. I’m prepared to put your origins to one side, how about you put mine to one side too, and we talk about something way more interesting like, beer or cooking, or what ever else. In fact if you took the angle of food I would probably open up about my culture immediately. Don’t ask me where I’m from originally, just be a bit tactful and ask if I’m a curry fan. Hahahaha!
If I had white Irish parents and I was born and grew up in London I would not have to tackle this gauntlet of questioning 5 or 6 times a night. The majority of people only ask because they see my skin colour. OK maybe they find it exotic, or even attractive. I’m flattered, I really am. As they build a perception of me based on my appearance, I’m building a perception on them based on their ability to hold a decent conversation and demonstrate some emotional intelligence. Clearly I get asked this all the time right? Also, it’s always more interesting when the topic of conversation is not me or them but something we can both talk about and reflect on like sandwiches or the magnitude of the universe, or a line from Fresh Prince of Bel Air.
Good conversation is an art, my countless attempts of speaking to women for the first time would demonstrate that I am no master, however I am still striving towards perfection every time. It’s a learning curb, I get it. I know it’s not easy to be totally conscious of ones actions all the time. I forgive you because quite frankly, you don’t know it’s annoying and in essence it’s just about making a connection. I’m just so tired of all the race based news and everything being so divided it is such a joy to forget about race and just straight up shoot the shit. I’m dignified enough to wait until you want to tell me where you are from, so please allow me to tell you when I’m ready.